Tuesday, July 26, 2011

The Big Secret

I have been very blessed along this journey in that I have met quite a few people along the way who have been walking this path to wellness for much longer than I.  These individuals I refer to today are not the ones who were born walking it (you know who you are...and good for you!).  No, these individuals that I am speaking of today are the ones who began as I began, overweight and unsure.  They had, for whatever reason, hit the proverbial "wall," and in so doing, had then decided to change their eating and physical activity levels, thus instituting "lifestyle changes," something -- as you all know -- I am striving to do on a daily basis.
The majority of these people I have met have managed to maintain their weight loss and live their new lifestyles for at least a year, most of them more...  What an inspiration these people are to me!!! By and large, when I first come across a new friend who has accomplished this great feat, they wait for ME to approach them to ask "how" or "why" -- I'm not sure why, but they never do come up and start just lecturing on how to achieve this goal that I want so much. 

Side note:  Truly: this reservation, this waiting,  is one of the things I love the best about these new friends...they have the knowledge, and are willing to share it, but they also know a few of the greatest secrets when it comes to weight loss, and one of those secrets is that an individual must come to the realization that lifestyle changes must occur ON THEIR OWN.  Motivation to institute lifestyle changes to support weight loss and the goal of optimal health cannot be brought to the table by others...it must come from within oneself.  Possibly one of the hardest, but one of the most important, lessons to learn on this journey.  These people know this, having already learned this lesson, and knowing it is mine to learn, they hang back with the advice and the recommendations.   The minute I approach them, they are ready and available.  I love this about them, and thank them for their patience in letting ME come to THEM.  One lesson learned!! (Yea, me!)

For me, I am constantly in search of people who have accomplished this goal of walking this path to optimal health.  I love the company, I love the resources, and frankly, I love being able to ask "why this?" or "why not that?" and actually get some ANSWERS that are not based on conjecture or studies, but, rather, based on having "walked a mile in my moccasins," if you know what I mean!!

Anyway, I am sure you can imagine what the one question is that I have asked every single one of these peoople...Can you? It is, "How did you do it?" How did you lose that 100 pounds? How did you get up every single morning and make the right choices?

So, obviously, the question that I am asking is not really of much surprise to anyone -- isn't this what we ALL want to know? How DO you do this? How DOES one manage to lose and maintain a weight loss of over 100 pounds? Or 50? Or 10, for that matter?

What IS surprising is the fact that of all of these new friends -- some who have lost 100 pounds, others who have lost 20 pounds...is that they ALL (yes, every single one of them) answer EXACTLY THE SAME WAY.  Are you ready for the big reveal? It's not hard to remember, and yet it is something of a challenge to do...Here is the answer we are all looking for....(drumroll, please....)

One. Day.  At.  A.  Time.

Yep: that's the big secret.  I don't know about you, but for me, this was not what I expected.  I was hoping (let's be honest: who isn't?!) for some big reveal. You know -- "I eat ground up ginger in everything." (OK: going to buy ginger.) or "I make sure I do 900 squats after every workout. It really makes a difference." (OK: I think I'm up to 15 at this point, but you gotta start somewhere...900 is my new goal!)

Nope.  The secret is: THERE'S NO SECRET.  Bottom line is this, if you want to be successful in your weight loss and lifestyle change efforts, you just have to DO IT.  Every day.  This means whether or not the needle on the scale is moving.  This means whether or not those jeans are fitting better every day or not.  It means if you feel like it, and it means if you don't. 

So....there it is, my friends..."Just Do It."  Ahhhhh...don't you just love it when you realize that the answer you've been seeking has been right in front of you all the time??????? 

So, out we go, dear readers...time to go "Just Do It" -- are you ready? Let's GO!!!

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Doors

This morning as I was doing my cool down on the Spinning bike after an awesome workout with my trainer, my mind started wandering...and what came to me was this:  since I opened the door to wellness, so MANY other doors have opened.  Truly...these days, it is almost like I am in a hallway just filled with doors waiting to be opened.  And the truth is, it all started with me just opening that Very.First.Door.

In February, when I first put my hand on the doorknob of the door that would lead me on this path to wellness, it would be a complete lie if I told you I felt anything other than absolute TERROR. No kidding!  Think about it:  I didn't embark on this path to wellness because I had just decided that I wanted to be healthy.  I was on the "Scared Straight" program!! It took me thinking that I was going to lose everything I'd ever cared about to actually make me take a look at the unhealthy choices I was making on a daily basis, and do something about it.  So, yeah:  there wasn't any other feeling going through that door other than sheer terror.  But, I opened the door (I was quite determined to go through it), and what I found were doctors and professionals that were willing to help me educate myself so that I could make more informed choices and therefore begin to take charge of my health.

The next door that I came to was the one that I encountered in March, and that was the door that led me to Dr. Ann.  This door came up rather unexpectedly, as I had been seeing a nutritionist through my doctor, and there came a point where I needed a little more "why" and a little less "just do it" so I could make this a PERMANENT LIFE CHANGE.  Thank Heavens my mother had the key to this door, and with the help of some friends, I ended up meeting with Dr. Ann and learning the "Why" to all of this...Walking through this door was out of necessity, and the feeling attached here was no longer terror, but more searching...I knew I needed to make changes, but I found that I needed to know why...it wasn't enough to just walk through blindly.  And in I went, and it has saved my life.

Once through the Dr. Ann door, I found myself falling into a lovely pattern -- I now knew what to eat, WHY to eat it (so important for me), and how to eat it.  So I bopped along on the path for a good long while, until I came to the next door:  FITNESS.  Now, I'm not going to lie to you: I am the girl who HATED P.E. in school, and physical activity has never been high on my list of fun things to go do!  So, this door, I walked through and then I walked back out. I walked through again...and then I found the door to "Too Busy" and stayed there for a while.  Then Dr. Ann told me that I would never achieve my goals if I didn't walk through the door and keep moving.  So, I did.  The feeling in walking through this door would have to be...Reluctant.  I knew I had to move to get the weight off.  I wasn't looking forward to it (ok: I was dreading it!), but I knew it was something I HAD to do.  So I turned the doorknob and walked on through...But on the other side of this door, people weren't walking, they were DANCING! I had found Zumba...and from there, I have now danced my way to my wonderful personal trainer, Ali.  Man...had I only known what lay on the other side of that door, I would have walked through it so much earlier!!!!  And so I danced for a while...and am still doing so...when I am not lifting weights!!

Dancing on down the path, the next door I came to was found while I was on vacation.  This door, another Physical Activity door (so you know I was still feeling a bit of trepidation...I don't know if it's because I'm overweight and have been for so much of my life, or if it's something else...but I always worry that everyone is going to be staring at me and thinking, "what's that fat girl think she's doing?" when I'm working out...) was not one I planned on opening, because I'd already opened the Zumba/Ali door, and felt like that was enough on that front!  However, in front of this door was a friend, so I decided to open it and see what was on the other side.  SPINNING was on the other side of this door...truly: one of my greatest loves and such a wonderful gift in my life.  (Yes: I know there are those of you that think I am INSANE for loving this, but LOVE it I do!!) This door opened up to a whole new world...and I am revelling in it!!  Spin, spin, spin...dance...dance...dance...

So, as I said...this morning, as I was doing my cool-down from my workout with Ali on the Spin bike, I started to think about all of the doors in my life.  Ones that I have walked through, and ones that have yet to be opened.  The truth is, I have no idea what the next door that pops up will be, or what lies on the other side of it.  In life, we seldom do.  But I do know this:  I will open it, and I will walk through, because if there is one thing I have learned on this journey and from walking through all of those open doors that lie behind me, it is this:  I have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

My hand is on the next doorknob...are you with me?

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Sweet Inspiration

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about Inspiration.  Where it comes from, the impact that it has on our lives, how it guides us to where we need to be. How it can propel us to great heights even when we don't want to -- or even think we can -- climb even the smallest of hills. 

These thoughts have then led to where Inspiration comes from...where do you get it? What inspires you? And, once inspired, how do you then take that spark and inspire others?

I thought that I would start off the blog today with a quotation, but the truth is, there are way too many quotes to even begin to search through them...and frankly, nothing inspired me!!  So, I decided to Google "Inspiration", and this is the first thing that came up:

Inspiration refers to an unconscious burst of creativity in a literary, musical, or other artistic endeavour. Literally, the word means "breathed upon," and it has its origins in both Hellenism and Hebraism. The Greeks believed that inspiration came from the muses, as well as the gods Apollo and Dionysus. Similarly, in the Ancient Norse religions, inspiration derives from the gods, such as Odin. Inspiration is also a divine matter in Hebrew poetics. In the Book of Amos the prophet speaks of being overwhelmed by God's voice and compelled to speak. In Christianity, inspiration is a gift of the Holy Spirit.
(taken from Wikipedia, under "Artistic Inspiration")

I love the idea that one is "breathed upon"... that is, for me, how it feels when I am inspired.  Inspiration plays a huge part in my life...I am inspired when I go into my ribbon room at home and make headbands; I am inspired when I see my oldest daughter take a smaller child under her wing to teach her something. I am inspired when I see my son take on a new task and master it; and when my middle daughter shows unexpected kindness or grace.  I am inspired when I walk into the gym and I see a new friend working out, doing something that I have been raving about and she has decided to try it...I am inspired by bursts of color, and I am continually inspired by the beauty of the human spirit.  All of things inspire me to be a better human being, to try harder, to be MORE.

Since I started this blog a few months ago, I have been blessed enough to be told that I have inspired YOU.  As many of you know, that was one of my key factors in starting the blog - to inspire MYSELF to do better, to make better choices; and hopefully, in doing so, to reach out and inspire others.  To know that I am accomplishing this means so much to me!  I also take it as a very serious responsibility...it is not something I take lightly, and I do think about it a lot...it is helping me to make the right choices and to do what I know to be the "right thing."

Weight loss and this journey towards better health is such a tricky, twisty path.  When one first steps foot on this path, it is usually with a fair amount of trepidation and uncertainty...what lies ahead? Can I do it? And if I do do it, then what happens next?  For me, I turned to others who had walked this path before me...I am lucky: I have several friends and loved ones that have walked the path towards better health and have actually made it to "home plate," if you will...they are living and maintaining healthy, happy lives.  This is my goal.  My inspiration, you might say.  Now that I have been walking this path for the past five months, I am learning that inspiration is not static - it is not one thing, one point on a map.  It is continually moving forward, learning, taking in...and adjusting.  It is about the constant search for inspiration -- and then, once inspiration is found, taking it in to create MORE inspiration!

For me, it is inspiring that I inspire you.  To know that someone who reads this blog can then make even the smallest of healthy changes in their lives...to have made the world a little better, a life a little healthier...well, that is sustainable inspiration.  Kind of like the most wonderful of cycles...you inspire me, so I inspire you, so you inspire me, and so on, and so on...

It makes you think, doesn't it? For me, knowing that I've inspired someone to make positive changes in their lives -- well, it just lifts me right up.  And makes me even more determined to make choices and to move forward in a way that will continue to inspire others...including myself!

So, my charge for today is this:  get out there! Find your inspiration, and then, make a little more...and then, give it away.  I can assure you, as a friend once told me a very long time ago:  giving IS receiving.  It is the very same thing.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Amazing Grace

Helloooooo...I'm baaacckkk!!

This time the reason for the brief sabbatical was not that I couldn't find the time to write, but rather that my family decided to take some time "off" and go up to the mountains of North Carolina to spend some good, quiet, quality family time.  As of today, it is "back to reality," but not without some major reminders of time well spent in North Carolina.

For me, I had a moment in North Carolina that I wanted to share with everyone. It is my hope that you'll read it and say, "Oh, I have moments like this!" or maybe it will inspire you to go out and FIND your moment like this one.  For me, the moment I will share (and it was just a very brief moment...but it was more than enough) came unexpectedly...but it is more than appreciated.  I have no doubt that in the weeks and months to follow, as I continue to work my way towards my goal of "optimal health," I will call on it in both good times and bad.

Enough of the lead in! Now, time for my story!!

While up in North Carolina, I had determined that I was going to stay on my "program" that had recently added physical activity (starting with working with a trainer, and recently having added up to 3 days additional of cardio).  With that in mind, I made my way over to the gym on property where we stay up in North Carolina.  I worked my hiney off on the elliptical machine, finishing up with a quick walk/run on the treadmill.  After I finished, I polished that off with a quick run-through on some weight machines with the resident trainer.  As I finished up my last rep, a dear friend of mine popped over and told me she was teaching the Spinning class at the gym.  I was thrilled - I used to bicycle a long, long time ago, but haven't done any cycling in years. I used to do up to 15-20 miles a day on my bike, though.  So Spinning really has been on my list of things to try out and see if it would work to add it to my exercise regimen (ideally, I'm looking for variety, as I'm quite terrified of becoming bored & not wanting to do it!).  I agreed to go and take her Spinning class on the following Monday.

Of course, then the doubts set in : what if I'm too fat? What if I don't know how to do it? What if I am so out of shape and overweight that I CAN'T do it...and everyone is looking at me, the fat chick in the corner who is turning purple?? 

However, this journey has had more than its share of doubts, so I powered through, and come Monday morning, I got my fanny on a Spinning bike (and no: for those of you who have done Spinning, my fanny has not yet forgiven me!).  AND I FELL IN LOVE!!

No kidding! No sooner was I 20-30 minutes into the 60 minute class than I knew that I had re-discovered an activity that I adored.  Although I could barely walk, I made plans to attend the Wednesday class...and the Friday class...and the Sunday class!! Now that I am home, I have made plans to attend my first Spinning class tomorrow morning (so, so, so excited!) in Jacksonville to continue the trend!

But it is not the discovery of this new love that I want to share with you now, but instead, what happened in my Wednesday morning Spin class last week...

Music is an important part of any class, but Spin in particular because it helps to keep you motivated. We had 5 people in our class on Wednesday - Bridget, who likes to sing (and I loved having her behind me), Mike, Molly, myself & the instructor.  We were at the top of a mountain and a beautiful rendition of "Amazing Grace" came on. From behind me, I heard Bridget start to sing. Then, to my right, Mike started to sing...very low...you really had to strain to hear both of them.  Within a moment, Molly had also joined in...and of course, I had been singing from the start (I couldn't let Bridget sing alone, now, could I?)...All of us, riding our bikes at top speed, raising our voices in praise.

Yep, you got it: I had a God moment. 

No question about it.  And of course, me being me, when I realized that I was having this beautiful, exquisite moment of clarity - One of those where you are where you're supposed to be, doing what you're supposed to be doing, with the people whom you are supposed to be doing it with...- what did I do? I almost burst into tears!!

For here I am, on a Spinning cycle, where I never thought that I would be; pedaling at top speeds, feeling fantastic, and singing "Amazing Grace." Ahhhh...God moments! You gotta love 'em!! At that moment, I stopped and thanked God for giving me this second chance -- this chance not only to improve my health, but to have such God moments.

And that, my friends, IS Amazing Grace.